During coaching calls, I often persuade myself that I cannot help the person in front of me.
I worry that I will miss the point.
That I will be demanded more than I can deliver.
Indeed, no standard replies exist in that context.
Everything is contextual and emergent.
And questions need to be given birth on the spot.
Performance anxiety mounts.
Self-doubt kicks in.
And presence is progressively lost.
Minutes pass, until a new stage is reached.
I just forget failure!
I realise that, if I am not the right person, there is really nothing I can do.
It is too late to develop new skills.
It is too late to be anyone different than I am.
So I can relax.
And enjoy the show.
And that’s when things shift.
The chat flows naturally again.
Things go as they should.
And a smile appear on both faces.
This can happen in many professional interactions.
In coaching calls and mentoring sessions.
In job interviews and sales meetings.
I often find myself pray of the impostor syndrome.
Thinking at my reply, instead of fully listening.
In these situations, just forget failure.
Give yourself totally to the person in front of you.
And reap the rewards that come with it.
Give it a try, next time you are doubting yourself.
It builds confidence.
And changes everything.
Have a fearless journey,
— Livio
10/02/23
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Yes super interesting! I never thought of it until it started happening. I have been a doctor for 15+ years and it was 7 years ago when I started this project in which online consultation and ecourses was my aim. Back then I did a huge move, left my job for a year in order to start this, so I think now that my nerves were in edge, both excited and nervous about what I was trying to create even though I knew my occupation perfectly well. I was nervous in how people would take it, on how they'd even see a medical online consultation possible and why would they need it over a regular one. It's amazing to see how after 7 years and a pandemic later, the world has now opened to such vision and it's so normally taken as we speak. It's always a learning curve! So I believe this is most likely what happened, in regards to your question. 😊
Livio, Sometimes, I fear I do not have the answers they seek. I fear they ask too much. I don't put myself out as a guru, yet react like they think I am. I think you have something - let all of that go. Jess Laird (70s self-help writer) has the title " I Ain't Much, But I Am All I Got." I need to remember that. D