That's generally the path of a western mind . Well now , with globalization, most humans. Throw in some internal authoritarian truth bending, cultural and religious dogmas. For a more complete cluster pepper some external influences ( from corporate slogans, companies recruitment to plain war) and it will add extra navigational skills.
And immigration in several ( xenophobic by tribal legislation design) countries.
Since the tech bros and the savage streaming I'm not sure I can advice myself, even less guide someone else ( my kids).
It's back to the blind leading blind allegory, painted by one of the Bruegel's ( Elder or not).
I would be a lousy elder guide, but there's satisfying discovering my blindspots, biases, blindsided skewness, prejudices and making up my own explanatory narratives as a coping mechanisms.
Because I don't know yet what I don't know. I know is increasingly vast only.
Wow - what great conversation this post has sparked!
I've been experimenting with slow living since my first career burn out in 2012. It's included learning to say no more often, tuning into my nervous system and honouring that large crowds are exasperating to me, not thrilling, and turning away from cultural norms.
I had a Mother Blessing instead of a Baby Shower to celebrate my transition from maiden to mother. I had an extremely small morning wedding ceremony (with no family) and no meal or dance. I wait to reply to texts or emails until I can reply with full presence instead of reply with an emoticon.
Sometimes I even decline a work meeting. And you know what? Life carries on.
As I explored characteristics of the masculine and feminine, I realized that the hustle and grind is very masculine whereas slow living and living seasonally or cyclically is more feminine. It's been a wild journey! But I still have these "goals" or ideas that things will be different if I just _____ (host a retreat, quit my job, homestead, move into the woods.....)! Thank you for the permission to accelerate into my own life learning :)
A great example of this is our eternal quest for more. A bigger house is something many aspire to but...
Family is more important than a bigger house. A bigger house may make us unhappy and take us away from our children. They need our love and presence. They grow up quickly, and we don't want to miss their childhood. We should enjoy every moment with them, and make our current home cozy and comfortable. A bigger house is not worth losing our family. We should be grateful for what we have now.
And do we need to rush? ;)
How about walking instead of running, accepting we might be still on the wrong path, but enjoying the journey.
And it gets easier if there is someone just holding our hand through the tough turns.
That's generally the path of a western mind . Well now , with globalization, most humans. Throw in some internal authoritarian truth bending, cultural and religious dogmas. For a more complete cluster pepper some external influences ( from corporate slogans, companies recruitment to plain war) and it will add extra navigational skills.
And immigration in several ( xenophobic by tribal legislation design) countries.
Since the tech bros and the savage streaming I'm not sure I can advice myself, even less guide someone else ( my kids).
It's back to the blind leading blind allegory, painted by one of the Bruegel's ( Elder or not).
I would be a lousy elder guide, but there's satisfying discovering my blindspots, biases, blindsided skewness, prejudices and making up my own explanatory narratives as a coping mechanisms.
Because I don't know yet what I don't know. I know is increasingly vast only.
Wow - what great conversation this post has sparked!
I've been experimenting with slow living since my first career burn out in 2012. It's included learning to say no more often, tuning into my nervous system and honouring that large crowds are exasperating to me, not thrilling, and turning away from cultural norms.
I had a Mother Blessing instead of a Baby Shower to celebrate my transition from maiden to mother. I had an extremely small morning wedding ceremony (with no family) and no meal or dance. I wait to reply to texts or emails until I can reply with full presence instead of reply with an emoticon.
Sometimes I even decline a work meeting. And you know what? Life carries on.
As I explored characteristics of the masculine and feminine, I realized that the hustle and grind is very masculine whereas slow living and living seasonally or cyclically is more feminine. It's been a wild journey! But I still have these "goals" or ideas that things will be different if I just _____ (host a retreat, quit my job, homestead, move into the woods.....)! Thank you for the permission to accelerate into my own life learning :)
That is so important - we have to learn by doing, make our own choices and learn the lessons they provide.
Sometimes you have to reach your goals to realise that it's not the destination that matters, it's the journey. But yeah, it's tough.
The target is always moving, so do we. It’s never done and never wrong ❤️
A great example of this is our eternal quest for more. A bigger house is something many aspire to but...
Family is more important than a bigger house. A bigger house may make us unhappy and take us away from our children. They need our love and presence. They grow up quickly, and we don't want to miss their childhood. We should enjoy every moment with them, and make our current home cozy and comfortable. A bigger house is not worth losing our family. We should be grateful for what we have now.
Hi Livio - seen you haven't posted for a while. Just checking all ok.
Excellent!