“This is difficult”, “This is challenging”, “This takes ages”.
These statements might not be the most encouraging ones.
When confronted with them, I was inclined to be easily disappointed. And demotivated.
Since things of life were not as easy as they “should have been”.
This tended to bother me.
With two possible consequences.
Either to postpone trying out new things, to avoid delusion and failure.
Or to try them out, get easily demoralised and give up too early.
Now I am following a different approach.
Realising that these are just facts of life.
And that attaching emotions to facts is not bringing me any further.
“Facts are just facts”.
They do not have a positive or negative connotation. They are neutral.
We are the ones who paint them in black or white.
And, as such, we can stop doing that.
An example might help to clarify the concept.
I am now working on the promotion of my blog.
This is revealing more challenging than I would have thought.
Certain communication channels are difficult to use effectively, defining a compelling strategy takes time and tactics that have worked in the past might not work today.
The old me would have taken these finding as a reason to give up.
And drop my attempt to write consistently for a growing the audience.
Instead, I’m now just looking at them as facts.
An invitation to try out new things.
Learn from what has worked and move forward.
Instead of being demoralised, a certain sense of accomplishment arises.
Because I am gaining information to inform my future choices.
Avoiding wasting time on the wrong things.
And making plans on the basis of assumptions I haven’t had the courage to test yet.
Consider this approach.
Whether you are trying to write a novel.
Or apply for a new job.
Or grow in your career.
Facts are just facts.
Stick to that.
And move forward.
Happy honest journey,
— Livio
08/11/22
P.s.: I am sharing my experience on making decisions and finding my life path in the face of high uncertainty. Like or subscribe to follow my journey and learn from my mistakes ;)
Another example currently present for me is the following.
I am attending a coaching course.
And the decision to enroll was a bit of a bet.
Whether A. I will recognise myself in carrying out a coaching professional activity going forward, or B. I will not, is just going to be a fact.
There is no reason why A should be positive and B will be negative.
"Facts are just facts".
I will take whatever outcome as a lesson learned.
And move forward.